The Facts... without the Lecture
B4uDecide.ie is closing down at the end of May 2024.
Alternative sources of relationships and sexuality information and resources:
- For 16-25 year olds: SpunOut.ie is an information provision website, including relationships and sexuality issues.
- For 17+ year olds: Sexualwellbeing.ie is the HSE website that provides information and resources on a wide range of information such as consent, contraception, sexual transmitted infections, vaccinations and unplanned pregnancy
- For parents: The HSE’s ‘Making the ‘Big Talk’ many small talks’ series of booklets to help parents and children talk about relationships and sexuality is available online, and to order free of charge from healthpromotion.ie. HSE funded RSE workshops are available at npc.ie and ifpa.ie
- For teachers: Junior Cycle SPHE Resources are available to support the new 2023 SPHE specification , including the Relationship and Sexuality strand.
- For youthworkers: HSE funded training on relationship and sexuality issues is available at REAL U | Foroige and Tailored Training Courses – National Youth Council of Ireland
Saying No to Sex
“Saying No” might sound like you’re being a spoilsport – but saying no can also be called:
- Standing up for yourself.
- Putting your own needs and feelings first.
- Not being a pushover.
- Not letting other people tell you what to do.
People who really care about others will respect their decision to say no to things that they don’t want to do.
If you ever find yourself being pressured into having sex, by your friends, by your boyfriend or girlfriend, you might find the Skills and Words for saying no to sex useful.
Remember, you don’t have to give someone a reason as to why you don’t want to have sex with them. It’s enough for you to say:
“No, I’m not doing it. I don’t want to.”
If they are your friend, if they care about you and respect you, they will back off.
Watch the video to hear what other young people think.