Coming out is the process through which you accept your sexual orientation and/ or gender identity as being gay, lesbian, bisexual and/or transgender (LGBT).
It is also the process through which you tell others about your sexual orientation or gender identity e.g. family, friends and colleagues.
When you feel like coming out, you might feel stressed, frightened, excited or relieved and it’s okay to feel any or all of these emotions. You will probably be asking yourself: What will people think? How will I tell people? How will my family and friends react?
It is important to take your time and think about whether you are ready to talk about it and who you want to tell. How you decide to come out is up to you. You might tell a close friend first if you don’t feel comfortable telling your parents.
Thinking about coming out:
Supporting an LGBT friend:
Supporting a LGBT friend is accepting them for who they are without trying to change them. Your support goes a long way in making them feel comfortable with their orientation and/or gender identity. Below are some things you might do
a. To make it easier for a friend to come out:
o Learn more about LGBT issues so you understand better how you friend might be feeling.
o Talk about LGBT issues and be inclusive so that your LGBT friends will get clues that it would be okay to
come out to you.
o When it is safe for you to do so, challenge people who say bad things about LGBT people.
o Don’t make assumptions about a person’s sexuality. Let them tell you if they want to tell you.
b. To support a friend who has come out:
o When someone has come out, be caring and understanding towards them, be there for them.
o Don’t be too hard on them for not telling you sooner, think about the courage it took to come out.
o Understand that coming out doesn’t mean your friend is a different person, they are still the same, the difference is letting you into their private life.
BeLonG To is the national organisation for LGBT for young people. They have LGBT groups all over Ireland that promote a safe space to come in and chill out, get to know some people and have a chat about what’s on your mind.
Visit www.BelongTo.org for more information or to find a youth group near you.
The above information has been adapted from a number of sources including spunout.ie and BelongTo.org.