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Saying No to Sex

“Saying No” might sound like you’re being a spoilsport – but saying no can also be called:

  • Standing up for yourself.
  • Putting your own needs and feelings first.
  • Not being a pushover.
  • Not letting other people tell you what to do.

People who really care about others will respect their decision to say no to things that they don’t want to do.

If you ever find yourself being pressured into having sex, by your friends, by your boyfriend or girlfriend, you might find the Skills and Words for saying no to sex useful.

Remember, you don’t have to give someone a reason as to why you don’t want to have sex with them. It’s enough for you to say:

“No, I’m not doing it. I don’t want to.”

If they are your friend, if they care about you and respect you, they will back off.

Watch the video to hear what other young people think.