All types of people can end up in unhealthy relationships – it doesn’t matter whether you are intelligent, old, young or strong.
If you are in a relationship and you answer yes to any of the questions below, you may in an unhealthy relationship and you need to get help. Talk to your parents or another adult you trust.
- Do they want you to spend all your time with them, and exclude your other friends?
- Are they controlling? Do they try to control what you do, how you look, what you wear, who you talk to, where you go?
- Are they always checking up on you, wanting to know where you are?
- Do they get angry with you if you don’t do what they want you to do?
- Do they make you feel nervous, anxious or even frightened?
- Do they ever put you down, call you names, make you feel stupid, tell you that no-one else likes you, threaten to hurt you or people who are close to you, threaten to hurt himself/herself because of you?
- Do they ever get extremely jealous or possessive of you, constantly text you or accuse you of flirting with other people when you haven’t?
- Do they ever punch, kick, slap, spit, shove, shake, throw things at you, hold you down or hurt you in any other way?
- Do they ever pressure or force you into going further sexually than you want to?
If some or all of these things are happening to you, it is necessary – for your own well being – that you get help and leave this relationship. Talk to your parents or another adult you trust.
If reading this makes you think about other relationships in your life, talk to someone you trust. You can visit one of the services on the Support Services page. You can also call or email Childline 1800 66 66 66 or www.childline.ie