People have diverse sexual identities; ‘orientation’ (who you are attracted to) and ‘gender identity’ (whether and how you identify as a male or female) are two aspects of this identity.
In terms of orientation, you may be straight, gay, lesbian or bisexual and/or know people who are (a very small minority of people identify as being ‘asexual’ i.e. having no feelings of sexual attraction).
In terms of gender identity, you may be a person, and know loads of other people, whose personal sense of identity matches their biological sex and the gender identity they were given at birth. You may also be someone, or know someone, who doesn’t identify with the gender they were given at birth (this is known as being ‘transgendered’).
Being able to express these parts of your sexuality is very important and should be respected, it is also very important to respect other people’s orientation and gender identity.
Although more people are coming out as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender in their teenage years, very often people do not come out until they are older. Because of this you most likely know people who are gay who just haven’t told you. They may feel that they can’t tell you because they fear a bad reaction. This fear is well founded as homophobic bullying is widespread. We all have a part to play in ensuring that such bullying is not tolerated and that everyone is respected.
If you’re being bullied you need to tell your parents and report it to a teacher. There are also support services that you can contact like BeLongTo Youth Services.
If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, check out the BeLonG To Youth Services website.